Pussy, Vulva, Vagina - Oh my...

“The love expressed between women is particular and powerful because we have had to love in order to live; love has been our survival,”

-Audre Lorde wrote in Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches

Hello, Pussrageous friends,

Welcome back to our PC (Pussrageous Conversations) safe space where we talk P.U.S.S.Y, power, pleasure, and all wonderful opportunities of growth in pussy knowledge. This space provides sex-positive education, pussy resources, and promotes pleasure, affirming body image, and desires.

Do the Yipee dance; it's the second blog. Yesszzz!

Today as promised, we're going to take the letters from the word pussy, and we're going to choose a letter. That letter will begin the topic of our courageous, safe conversation. How are we going to choose a letter you ask? Great question, absolutely love sharing space with you. Bang! We're going to choose a letter by putting the letters inside of a metal roller bingo cage-like thingy. And...we're rolling, and rolling, and rolling...

And the letter chosen for today is, P. P is for Pussy. Our courageous conversation topic today will be Pussy.

Sing along with me PC lovelies. P is for pussy that's good enough for me, hey P is for pussy, that's good enough for me, P is for pussy. Does anyone else keep seeing the blue furry Cookie Monster from Sesame Street, if Cookie Monster sang that song? Hmmm. Perhaps, more people would have watched Sesame Street for a lot longer, but that's another conversation.

I'm glad P is the letter for today because the nurse in me screams in a high loud pitched sing-songy voice.

Educational courageous conversation moment. - (insert happy song here). PC lovelies, I adore education, and as we empower ourselves with P.U.S.S.Y., we will also empower ourselves with knowledge, and today that will begin with anatomy.

Anatomy? What the...Raine? Yo, seriously! Really? Really? I came to this blog and will soon listen to your podcast because I want to discuss Pussy and Power. I want to know how I can get my pleasure on and how I can get my feminine connection. I don't want no stinking anatomy.

Hold up Sis. *Side-eye, wink, kiss*

Let's talk real talk; let's have a courageous conversation. If we don't take a look at our delicious, juicy pussy, and know what we're working with the different textures, smells, colors, sensations or know the correct terminology for each beautiful, delicious, delicate, sensitive part, how can we learn pleasure? How can we teach pleasure to our partners? How can we understand our power?

I'm going to be honest, raw, and at all times, real. I'm a right nipple, left side of the clit, orgasmic type of woman. Too much? No worries, we go deep in courageous conversations with this blog and podcast. Realistically, if I don't know that about me, how can I share that with my partner or self-pleasure?

Yes, PC lovely, though education is not always a desire it is always desired, and is the basis of how we grow in our pussy. Education is the basis of who we are as humans and how we interact with one another.

By having courageous conversations, we're continuously educating each other about our desires, our goals, our dreams, our opportunities, and authentic, colorful, feisty, Pussrageous, mesmerizing selves.

Now that we're aligned. Hold up your beautiful, life-giving right hand and let us make a pledge to ourselves and each other. Yes, you too, Stacey, hold up your right hand. We will wait in love because we are sisters. Okay, let's say it together. “Today, we will know the difference between a pussy, the vulva, and the vagina.”

Now for the best part, the part I desire, that has me doing this blog and this podcast, let's have a courageous conversation.

Grab a tea or coffee. Me? Thanks for asking sis. For me, the drink will be alcohol, or two. Wait, did we mention in the first blog we like to drink? Ummm, ok, don't remember, but if we didn't, understand we love a good drink. Now grab a drink or two, oh, and don't forget the water. We need to stay hydrated. Girl, get a napkin. You better not spill that on my floor. If you prefer to sit in the blue velvet, comfy chair with a warm pillow, or on the floor, with a thick blanket, do you boo-boo.

Get comfortable, and let's have a courageous conversation.

Let's start with the clinical definition. What is a vagina? Dr. Jen Gunter, who wrote The Vagina Bible states, “the vagina is everything on the inside.” The vagina is a tube that connects your vulva with your cervix and uterus. It’s what babies and menstrual blood leave the body through.

Next up: What is the Vulva? The.vulva.gallery This definition is a bit easier. Dr. Jen states that the vulva is everything on the outside or everything that your clothes touch. The vulva is the part of your genitals on the outside of your body — your labia, clitoris, vaginal opening, and the opening to the urethra (the hole you pee out of). While vaginas are just one part of the vulva, many people say “vagina” when they really mean the vulva. But the vulva has a lot more going on than just the vagina. Planned Parenthood

●  Labia ●  The labia (lips) are folds of skin around your vaginal opening. The labia majora (outer lips) are usually fleshy and covered with pubic hair. The labia minora (inner lips) are inside your outer lips. They begin at your clitoris and end under the opening to your vagina. ●  Labia can be short or long, wrinkled, or smooth. Often one lip is longer than the other. They also vary in color from pink to brownish-black. The color of your labia can change as you get older. Some people have larger outer lips than inner lips, and many have larger inner lips than outer lips. Labias' are unique, Love your labia. ●  Clitoris ●  The tip of the clitoris (AKA glans) is located at the top of your vulva, where your inner lips meet. Everyone is a different size. It can be about as small a pea or as big as a thumb. The tip of the clitoris is covered by the clitoral hood. It extends inside your body, back and down on both sides of the vagina. The shaft and crura (roots and legs) are about 5 inches long. Your clitoris is made of spongy tissue that becomes swollen when you're aroused (turned on). It has up to 8 thousand nerve endings — more than any other part of the human body, it is only for pleasure. ●  Opening of the urethra ●  The urethral opening is the tiny hole that you pee out of, located typically just below your clitoris. ●  Opening of the vagina ●  The vaginal opening is right below your urethral opening. It's where menstrual blood leaves your body, and babies are born through the vaginal opening. I agree, but technically on the outside.

And now, what is Pussy?

The definition for pussy is spatial and origin for pussy can’t be clinically defined. There is some background to understand that word came from a place in blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. German origin, Nordic... blah. The question is, what does pussy mean to you? How do you feel when you say the word? When you hear the word? Do you have enlightenment, feelings of power, and joy? Have you been taught the word is negative, dirty, shameful, regulated to bedroom antics, and naughty? For PC, Pussy is power; it’s everything on the inside and the outside. It’s the entire region connected to your divinity, your heart, and your erotic. And that's the way it shall be used. Take some time for yourself after reading this blog. Close your eyes, say the word pussy, over and over again. Note your emotions, feelings, and thoughts. Do you remember that time on the first blog I said we would take a mirror and look at our pussies and eventually have our partners do the same? You do? Good. This is that time; it's mirror time. Look at yourself in the mirror, your entire self: eyes, breast, arms, ears, chin, and your pussy. Look at each part, touch each part, love on yourself, love on your Pussy, and understand that it has nothing to do with sex or penetration. It’s not about giving up something, it's sharing your space and time connecting with a person. It’s about sharing their space or sharing space with yourself, the ocean, the sky, moon, stars, or sun. Sit with that emotion, understand those feelings come from somewhere. Research them, enjoy them. Once you have found where your feelings for the word Pussy began, you choose if that definition is yours, you choose how you want the word to reflect and how you define Pussy. It's your choice, it always was.

This is a good place for a quote from a famous black woman. Hmmm, let me think. Oooh, yessszzz. I know. Maya.

“The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is. The truth is rarely pure and never simple.”

It's your choice, it always was. Pussrageously yours, Raine